I’m sharing Dr. Eric Perry’s blog on Fair Fighting Rules for Relationships. Click on the above link to read it.
The Rules are shared with couples mostly during relationship counseling sessions. I believe that Dr. Perry is a Clinical Psychologist. Check his website out and follow him.
I recommend these Rules for all relationships; whether you’re still dating each other (best time to learn the rules!) or newly-weds or even had some years in marriage.
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Have you ever walked in to a home where the couples were yelling at each other? Worst still, calling each other names? And you stare, eyes wide, not knowing what to do? Loving couples are not supposed to do certain things, right? Or maybe I belong to another planet but can’t help myself sharing life on planet Earth.
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Husband: “You never listen to me?!
Wife: “You never allow me to talk?!”
Husband: “You did the same thing last month.”
Wife: “Yes, because you did it first!”
Husband: “You’re always competing with me!
Wife: “Shame on you for saying that! Who did I marry?”
As the guest, what do you do? Walk back out the door? At least the rantings paused for someone to answer the door. They knew you were coming and you would have expected that they would at least delay the quarrel. But, no, none will budge.
The above rantings are not uncommon in households. But those rantings should be missing in loving homes.
There’s often an underlying problem that needs immediate attention. But some folks prefer to sweep issues under the rug hoping that it will quietly fade away. To this I always say that “it has a way of rearing its ugly head when you least expect it.” And a relationship that has both overt and covert personalities should find a middle ground very early in the relationship to avoid the above kind of rantings. Dr. Eric Perry’s Rules should help.
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Love should not resort to name-calling or try to suppress or oppress the other’s voice or personhood. And, there should be freedom and mutual respect in a relationship.
Where the spirit of the Lord is, there is freedom.
2 Corinthians 3:17
All relationships should have Rules and boundaries. Set yours today.
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I wrote my first two blogs, [Who Am I?], [We Yearn and Thirst For] on April 19, 2020 and didn’t write another till ten days later. I started slow but finally “getting my groove” (credits to Terry MacMillan) on blogging.
To all fathers worldwide But particularly to fathers in the countries celebrating Father’s Day today;
Thank you for the patriarchal leading and gathering of all your children under your arms That are so broad and strong Yet so caring and stern
Thank you for your guidance And protection;
For waking up early everyday To bring home the bacon So that your children and family Will be sufficiently provided for And not go without the necessities of life; Thank you for the little extras you add That makes you the special provider;
Thank you for all that you do Which sometimes goes unappreciated Yet you never stop giving and doing;
We pause today To celebrate all that you represent To let you know How much we care, love, and appreciate you We want to pause for you everyday But wish that you weren’t so busy We want to pause for you to rest And wish that you will take of us the best
We want to pause for you today
For icecream and cake
Or a walk with you in the garden
We want to pause for you And shout it out loud That you are the very best.
Happy Father’s Day June 21, 2020
You simply are the BEST!
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Happy Father’s Day to the Father of all fathers Whose attributes are a trillion times more than all the above Who sits majestically on His Throne Watching over his sons below Guiding and directing their paths So they can be all that He’s created them to be
We love you Our Father Who art in heaven We hallow your name Today as always And anticipate always That Your Kingdom Come now. Thank you for truly being The Omnipotent, Omniscient, and Omnipresent. We love You Father